Depression is Real; Practice the Art Of Showing Pure Love
There was this girl in the university, her name is Linda. She took good care of her body, always wanted to be a lifestyle blogger.
Linda became a social media influencer, and she had so many followers on Instagram who all loved her. In a minute of her posting a picture, there will be hundreds of comments and likes. Tll telling her how beautiful and stunning she was.
She was a real entertainer, always making everyone laugh. Every guy on social media wanted her number. But she kept to herself. She just had this infectious energy.
Linda was always the life of the party, she got along with everyone. She was never seen with the same outfit twice. Boxes of expensive designers.
On Instagram, she was the perfect girl, with the perfect life. Living in a perfect world, with the perfect guys. Living the dream life. It seemed like she was always having the best time with her friends. Always traveling, new experiences and so many great stories to share. Until people started to notice.
Nevertheless, Linda was living two lives.
No one really knew her inside. She had everyone to text, but no one to talk to. Everyone to follow but no one to work with. When her phone goes off, the world was a stage but it was that moment a reality came. She had an invite to every event, but still felt lonely. She had all the friends in the world but still felt like, no one really knows her.
She was going through pain, but never showed that side. It was something she hid from the world, but maybe we just never asked. She had masked her sadness with what looked like the ideal life. She was always flying high in the air, but felt low inside.
Her inbox was always full, but she felt empty within. She was happy on the outside, but struggling with depression and anxiety. She had an addiction that everyone called a “lifestyle”. She was struggling with mental health but people were just occupied by her physical appearance.
Furthermore, people think depression is sadness and crying or being quiet. Depression is when we smile, but we want to cry. It’s when we talk, although we want to be quiet. We pretend like we are happy, when in reality, we are not. Depression is not always obvious.
Linda, drank to drown her pain and the pain learned how to swim. She was sick of crying, tired of trying, smiling but inside she was dying.
It’s amazing how we can think we know someone and still don’t know them at all. Most often, people don’t understand how stressful it is to explain what’s going on in your head when you don’t even understand yourself.
We use filters to lighten our photos whilst we carry the heavy weight of stress. Remember, it is okay to have highlight reels, but make sure someone knows how you really feel. It’s okay to use FaceTime, but make sure you spend quality time face to face. It’s okay to have followers, but make sure you have true friends.
Don’t live for the approval of others. Document the moments you are most in love with yourself. Not just the moments you think people will love the most.
When someone doesn’t post for a few days, we ask if they’re okay. When someone post every day, we assume they are. Tell people you love them. Be a trust worthy friend. Tell them that they matter, and that they have survived a lot and they’re ready to thrive now.
People who care, will ask how you are doing, people who love you, will wait till you tell the truth. And that’s why Robin Williams said, “I used to think that the worst thing in life was to end up alone, it’s not. The worst thing in life, is to end up with people who make you feel alone”.